I just got this e-mail from one of my old school friends. I know it’s probably a little disturbing or shocking but I want to let everyone know what’s happening. I’m not gonna sit back and just let shit like this happen to those I consider very close to me.

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Here’s the timeline on the thing that ruined my life.

April 9th 2007; I meet Sabrina Larkin, we become a couple.

May 18th 2007; I propose to Sabrina, she accepts.

June 2007; We decide to try and have a Baby, thinking we’re ready and that we’ll be fine.

Jully / August 2007; Sabrina’s Pregnant.

September ’07; I start ” Childcare ” in ” Liberties College “. All’s going well.

November 2007; I start worrying about Money and not being able to provide for my Child and Partner and decide to leave College and work Full Time in ” Dunnes Stores “, I ask for extra Hours from the Human Resource Manager.

December 2007; Day I’m suppose to start my extra Hours I arrive late ( didn’t know I got the extra hours ) and was given my Notice Two Weeks before Christmas. I then decide to take a break and think about what I was going to do in the New Year.

January 2008; I get a place in ” C. A. S. Pr. ” ( ” The Community After School’s Project ), really enjoy what I’m doing.

Febuary 2008; Aisling is born and I’m so proud of both her and Sabrina. We spend a good bit of time fighting about me taking Aisling over night to give Sabrina a break. She thinks I’m trying to take the Baby off her and so on.

All was good for us for a few months.

May 28th 2008; While on my Laptop I get a Text from Sabrina in the very early hours of the morning saying she heard I shoock Aisling and that I wasn’t to do it again. My Mam got the same text but she was away. I totally and positivly denied and refuted the alagations saying that I did no such thing.

May 30th 2008; After completing ” Child Protection ” I recieve a call from the Social Worker, Tara O Connor notifing me that it was aledged I shoock Aisling, she asked me up to dicuss the issue. I gladly agree and she tells me that Sabrina, her Father ( Robert Larkin ) and her Mother ( Carmel Larkin ) were accusing me of shaking the Baby. I told her exactly the same thing I told Sabrina, that I DEFINATLY didn’t do anything of the sort. The story was that Aisling drank a Bottle, Sabrina had trouble getting Aisling’s Wind up, so she gave her over to me and went into the Kichen to make herself a Cup of Tea. I had trouble too and she wouldn’t stop crying so I got stressed out by her crying and shook her and then gave her to Sabrina’s Father. Her Father pulled me up over it and his shouts were that loud that Sabrina heard from the Kitchen, came in to see what was going on and when she found out did the same thing, eat the head off me. The Social Worker informed me that for the Child’s safetyI wasn’t to see her untill the investigation was complete, which I was happy to comply with as I was innocent even though I didn’t know when I’d see my Daughter again.. I later fond out that the Family Practice ( Fairview Strand Health Clinic ) was informed ( Doctor Ronan McCorrican was the Doctor’s name ).

June 3rd 2008; I inform my employers of the situation ( rightly in my mind, even if I wasn’t legally obliged to do it as I thought it was in the best interest of the Children in the Afterschool’s Project ) and I was temporarilly suspended only to be placed on cleaning duties two weeks later.

As time went on I found out more information, like the Doctor was informed A WEEK AFTER the incident was suppose to have happened and then the Social Worker was informed a Week AFTER THAT!!!!! I found this strange as you would inform the proper people of any type of Child Abuse you new of straight away. I then found out that the Doctor DIDN’T carry out a Medical Examination for signs of Physical Abuse when he was informed or after and that the Social Worker thought it wasn’t nessesary when she found out either.

The Summer Project starts in the After School’s and I was unable to partake in the activities, including the Trip to Cavan which I was REALLY looking forward to. When I was told I couldn’t go it killed me.

September 2008; The Social Worker’s so called ” Finding’s “: I shook Aisling but didn’t mean to do it, that I did it out of fustration because she was crying. So she agreed with Sabrina’s Father because THAT’S EXACTLY what he said happened.

Ever since shortly after the accusation was made it’s left me severly depressed and suicidal. Prior to it I could deal with these fellings and thoughts but after it it all got overwhelming.

We moved in together and her Family were in here alot. I couldn’t deal with it and we had a fight about it. In the end I told her I could deal with them being in the Apartment once a week but anything after that was asking too much of me. and the Week before Christmas Week her Father sent ” Dublin City Council ” a letter stating that Sabrina was living with her Partner, the Council forwarded a copy of the Letter to the Department Of Social & Family Affairs, we were informed about the Letter Christmas Week when the Rent’e Inspector called out to the Apartment. This lost Sabrina her Lone Parent’s Payment and the Rent Allowence that we needed to remain in the Apartment. The Day we found out about the letter we confroned him about it and he denied it was him. He pointed the finger at Sabrina’s Mother and said that he could easily type up a Letter, Print it out and Post it, that was as good as a confession for me so I lost the head and went for him. I got him in a Headlock and pulled him around a bit, he claims I punched him and put his head through a pane of glass in a door which left him a bloody mess. Again I did no such thing. He was all for getting me charged for assault and I didn’t care, all I cared about was why I didn’t finish him off for what he did to both of us. Sabrina’s Family were all banned from the Apartment. That night himself, Sabrina’s Mother, the Mother’s Partner and Sabrina’s Brother were alll down in the Family Home having what I can only describe as a War Council, discussing how best to deal with me. I found out Sabrina’s Brother was more then happy to beat the shit out of me so he enlisted to ” services ” of His and Sabrina’s Cousin to do the job. My Mother rang Sabrina’s Father to ask why he did such a thing and his excuse was that we were breaking the Law by Sabrina falsly claiming to be a Lone Parent and that he was right to inform the Council. He didn’t care that his Daughter and Granddaughter were going to be homeless and when my Mother asked if he would he be prepared to take both of them back if she took me back his exact response was that he wouldn’t have the Baby in the House again and that he had his own life to live now and he didn’t apologise for what he did to his Daughter. Sabrina fell into a severe depression over the issue and said it was her worst Christmas ever.

Then New Year’s Eve came and Sabrina text me while she was down in the Family Home and I was in Town asking for her Bebo Password, I found this strange as I knew they DIDN’T have a working Modem down thier so I asked her why she wanted it. She told me she was on the Internet and I then quized her about the Modem. When she described it as mine I told her to take it back and I would verify it as mine, I rang Customer Care to verify it was being used and they told me it was being used as I was on the phone to them. I got them to suspend the Modem and told them I would unsusspend it when it was back in my posession. When I got home I did just that the minute I got in, the Serial Number on the Modem she brought up and on my Modem’s Box matched EXACTLY so I new it was mine, not that I needed to check it because I knew it was mine. The Story was that Sabrina’s Sister ( Vanessa ) robbed it on me but I think it was her Brother who robbed it, but as I have no proof to back up my theory I have to go by what they told me. I told Sabrina there and then that I didn’t want ANY member of her Family in the Apartment because of it ( our Landlord said that after the Letter but I told Sabrina I would ask about two of the Sisters and her Grandmother I talked about getting her Sister charged with theft and her Fammily then talked about getting me charged with assault for what I did to Sabrina’s Father. Sabrina’s Mother’s Partner rang me to tell me that she was too young to be getting charged and I told him she was old enough to commit the crime so she was old enough to have charged for it. I also asked him if he or Sabrina’s Mother pulled her Father up for what he did to Sabrina and he told me that he didn’t. So I told him not to be lecturing me then. Sabrina couldn’t see why I was so upset and when I was asking if she’d be supporting me her EXACT words were ” this is my Family you want me to go against “, I just lost it then. I told her that if it was my Sister who robbed her Pink G. H. D which I paid €179 for as her Christmas Present then I would be pushing her to get her charged for theft just like I was planning to do with her Sister After them all accusing me of shaking Aisling, after her Father writng the letter and her Sister robbing my Modem she STILL was picking them over me so I finished it with her. The next Day we both moved back home and I didn’t see Aisling fornearly a Week. All of Sabrina’s Family continued to insult me behind my back, even though Sabrina has told them she didn’t like it and niether did I. She asked them to stop it and they didn’t stop. We had yet ANOTHER fight over it. I told Sabrina that she either stopped them and unconditionally supported me or there was no possible chance for us. She promised to support me but I told her I didn’t believe her because she said it all before.

The whole accusation episode has left me severly depressed, suicidal, skipping food for days on end, losing sleep and felling worthless. I know it’s wrong but part of me can logically argue that Aisling is to blame, and it kills me to think like that, I mean she was only three or four Months Old when it happened but I’m left asking myself would it have happened if she wasn’t born, I think not. Take last Week for example, more meals missed then I have digits, three nights were I couldn’t sleep and ended up crying and feeling so depressed suicidal that I nearly killed myself.

Now I know some people might think what I’ve said about Sabrina’s Family was mean and uncalled for or other things but I would urge them to put themeselves in my position and ask themselves how they’d react if it happened to them.

I’m very concerned about this whole situation. I know that situations like this do happen every day, but when it does happen to one of your best friends – well, that’s when things really do start to affect you…

If anyone has any advice or tips that I can forward onto him, please let me know! Otherwise, even just spreading the word out is greatly appreciated. I don’t like this whole debacle very much, any help I can give him would make me feel better